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-Placeholder+====== Self Improvement and Growing ====== 
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 +**Tags:** #selfimprovement #grow #develop #life #tips 
 + 
 +**Last Reviewed:** 14/10/2024 
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 +---- 
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 +A summary of tips, processes and methods that I (try to) use to improve myself. 
 + 
 +===== Getting Things Done / Stopping Procrastination ===== 
 + 
 +**Have a list of ToDo / Tasks** 
 + 
 +   * Without a task list / to-do list, you will just get sucked in your own brain on what to do. 
 +      * Build a list, be as specific as you can (eg "read 2 articles" instead of "read articles") 
 +      * Once an entry is done, mark it as done, and save it so you can see how much you got done overtime. 
 +      * If you looking for inspiration on how to organize your tasks, check for example [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Getting_Things_Done|Getting Things Done]] 
 +      * Remember is not (mostly) about which method, is about having a system and following it 
 +  * Shift the items on the list as much as you need, just get things done! 
 + 
 +**Start the task NOW and work on it for 5 minutes. You can stop afterwards.** 
 + 
 +  * Most of the times, you will notice that once you started, you don't want to stop. 
 +  * If you do stop, it's okay, go though the next task you been putting on hold. 
 + 
 +**Remember: is not a sprint, it's a marathon - consistency is THE key - Push the ball forward** 
 + 
 +  * Instead of trying to push 5 hours, try to build the routine of doing a bit every day 
 +  * Even if you don't feel like to, you should try to "push the ball forward" 
 +  * Imagine you want to run but you don't feel like it because of your current situation. How will gaining weight help in making the situation better? 
 +  * If you work 24 hours it's great. But if you work 1 hour each day instead, that's 9 weeks @ 40 hours each by End of the Year. 
 + 
 +===== Learning Anything Takes 20 Hours ===== 
 + 
 +Originally a talk by Josh Kaufman 
 + 
 +**Deconstruct the Skill **: 
 + 
 +  * Break the skill down into manageable components. 
 +  * Identify the specific aspects you want to learn and focus on the most essential parts first. 
 + 
 +**Learn Enough to Self-Correct **: 
 + 
 +  * Gather three to five quality resources (books, videos, courses) related to the skill. 
 +  * Use these resources not as a procrastination tool but to gain just enough knowledge to begin practicing and correcting mistakes. 
 + 
 +**Remove Barriers to Practice **: 
 + 
 +  * Identify and eliminate distractions (like TV, internet, etc.) that hinder your practice time. 
 +  * Utilize willpower to create a dedicated practice environment free from interruptions. 
 + 
 +**Practice for at Least 20 Hours **: 
 + 
 +  * Commit to dedicating at least 20 hours to practicing the skill over a month (roughly 45 minutes a day). 
 +  * Acknowledge the “frustration barrier” and persevere past initial difficulties to benefit from your investment in practice. 
 + 
 +===== Overcoming Social Anxiety / Talk to Anyone ===== 
 + 
 +Originally a talk by Prof. Jordan Peterson 
 + 
 +**Shift Focus Away from Yourself **: 
 + 
 +  * When in a social situation, consciously redirect your attention from your feelings of anxiety to observing others. 
 +  * Pay close attention to people's behavior and reactions to help ease your internal focus. 
 + 
 +**Engage with Individuals **: 
 + 
 +  * In group settings, instead of speaking to the entire group, engage with one person at a time. Treat the group as a collection of individuals, not one large audience. 
 +  * This approach allows you to communicate more comfortably and helps you feel more connected. 
 + 
 +**Develop Social Skills **: 
 + 
 +  * If you struggle with basic social skills, consider behavior therapy or social skills training to learn and practice effective social interactions. 
 +  * This can help you develop the confidence needed to engage with others effectively. 
 + 
 +**Pay Attention to Feedback **: 
 + 
 +  * Cultivate the practice of actively listening to others and interpreting social cues. This will help you understand the dynamics of a conversation better. 
 +  * Look for feedback, both verbal and non-verbal, to adjust your communication style accordingly. 
 + 
 +**Embrace Discomfort **: 
 + 
 +  * Acknowledge that feeling awkward is part of the learning process in social interactions. Accepting discomfort can help you push through anxiety instead of avoiding it. 
 + 
 +**Learn from Criticism **: 
 + 
 +  * Be open to receiving feedback, even if it comes from those you consider enemies or critics. This information can provide valuable insights for personal growth. 
 +  * Reflect on accurate critiques to help you develop and strengthen your social abilities.
  
  
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