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 ====== Self Improvement and Growing ======
+**Tags:** #selfimprovement #grow #develop #life #tips
+**Last Reviewed:** 14/10/2024
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 A summary of tips, processes and methods that I (try to) use to improve myself.
+===== Getting Things Done / Stopping Procrastination =====
+**Have a list of ToDo / Tasks**
+   * Without a task list / to-do list, you will just get sucked in your own brain on what to do.
+      * Build a list, be as specific as you can (eg "read 2 articles" instead of "read articles")
+      * Once an entry is done, mark it as done, and save it so you can see how much you got done overtime.
+      * If you looking for inspiration on how to organize your tasks, check for example [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Getting_Things_Done|Getting Things Done]]
+      * Remember is not (mostly) about which method, is about having a system and following it
+  * Shift the items on the list as much as you need, just get things done!
+**Start the task NOW and work on it for 5 minutes. You can stop afterwards.**
+  * Most of the times, you will notice that once you started, you don't want to stop.
+  * If you do stop, it's okay, go though the next task you been putting on hold.
+**Remember: is not a sprint, it's a marathon - consistency is THE key - Push the ball forward**
+  * Instead of trying to push 5 hours, try to build the routine of doing a bit every day
+  * Even if you don't feel like to, you should try to "push the ball forward"
+  * Imagine you want to run but you don't feel like it because of your current situation. How will gaining weight help in making the situation better?
+  * If you work 24 hours it's great. But if you work 1 hour each day instead, that's 9 weeks @ 40 hours each by End of the Year.
 ===== Learning Anything Takes 20 Hours =====
 Originally a talk by Josh Kaufman
-  *
 **Deconstruct the Skill **:
-      * Break the skill down into manageable components.
-      * Identify the specific aspects you want to learn and focus on the most essential parts first.
+  * Break the skill down into manageable components.
-  *
+  * Identify the specific aspects you want to learn and focus on the most essential parts first.
 **Learn Enough to Self-Correct **:
-      * Gather three to five quality resources (books, videos, courses) related to the skill.
-      * Use these resources not as a procrastination tool but to gain just enough knowledge to begin practicing and correcting mistakes.
+  * Gather three to five quality resources (books, videos, courses) related to the skill.
-  *
+  * Use these resources not as a procrastination tool but to gain just enough knowledge to begin practicing and correcting mistakes.
 **Remove Barriers to Practice **:
-      * Identify and eliminate distractions (like TV, internet, etc.) that hinder your practice time.
-      * Utilize willpower to create a dedicated practice environment free from interruptions.
+  * Identify and eliminate distractions (like TV, internet, etc.) that hinder your practice time.
-  *
+  * Utilize willpower to create a dedicated practice environment free from interruptions.
 **Practice for at Least 20 Hours **:
-      * Commit to dedicating at least 20 hours to practicing the skill over a month (roughly 45 minutes a day).
-      * Acknowledge the “frustration barrier” and persevere past initial difficulties to benefit from your investment in practice.
+  * Commit to dedicating at least 20 hours to practicing the skill over a month (roughly 45 minutes a day).
+  * Acknowledge the “frustration barrier” and persevere past initial difficulties to benefit from your investment in practice.
+===== Overcoming Social Anxiety / Talk to Anyone =====
+Originally a talk by Prof. Jordan Peterson
+**Shift Focus Away from Yourself **:
+  * When in a social situation, consciously redirect your attention from your feelings of anxiety to observing others.
+  * Pay close attention to people's behavior and reactions to help ease your internal focus.
+**Engage with Individuals **:
+  * In group settings, instead of speaking to the entire group, engage with one person at a time. Treat the group as a collection of individuals, not one large audience.
+  * This approach allows you to communicate more comfortably and helps you feel more connected.
+**Develop Social Skills **:
+  * If you struggle with basic social skills, consider behavior therapy or social skills training to learn and practice effective social interactions.
+  * This can help you develop the confidence needed to engage with others effectively.
+**Pay Attention to Feedback **:
+  * Cultivate the practice of actively listening to others and interpreting social cues. This will help you understand the dynamics of a conversation better.
+  * Look for feedback, both verbal and non-verbal, to adjust your communication style accordingly.
+**Embrace Discomfort **:
+  * Acknowledge that feeling awkward is part of the learning process in social interactions. Accepting discomfort can help you push through anxiety instead of avoiding it.
+**Learn from Criticism **:
+  * Be open to receiving feedback, even if it comes from those you consider enemies or critics. This information can provide valuable insights for personal growth.
+  * Reflect on accurate critiques to help you develop and strengthen your social abilities.