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 ====== Self Improvement and Growing ====== ====== Self Improvement and Growing ======
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 +**Tags:** #selfimprovement #grow #develop #life #tips
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 +**Last Reviewed:** 14/10/2024
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 A summary of tips, processes and methods that I (try to) use to improve myself. A summary of tips, processes and methods that I (try to) use to improve myself.
 +
 +===== Getting Things Done / Stopping Procrastination =====
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 +**Have a list of ToDo / Tasks**
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 +   * Without a task list / to-do list, you will just get sucked in your own brain on what to do.
 +      * Build a list, be as specific as you can (eg "read 2 articles" instead of "read articles")
 +      * Once an entry is done, mark it as done, and save it so you can see how much you got done overtime.
 +      * If you looking for inspiration on how to organize your tasks, check for example [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Getting_Things_Done|Getting Things Done]]
 +      * Remember is not (mostly) about which method, is about having a system and following it
 +  * Shift the items on the list as much as you need, just get things done!
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 +**Start the task NOW and work on it for 5 minutes. You can stop afterwards.**
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 +  * Most of the times, you will notice that once you started, you don't want to stop.
 +  * If you do stop, it's okay, go though the next task you been putting on hold.
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 +**Remember: is not a sprint, it's a marathon - consistency is THE key - Push the ball forward**
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 +  * Instead of trying to push 5 hours, try to build the routine of doing a bit every day
 +  * Even if you don't feel like to, you should try to "push the ball forward"
 +  * Imagine you want to run but you don't feel like it because of your current situation. How will gaining weight help in making the situation better?
 +  * If you work 24 hours it's great. But if you work 1 hour each day instead, that's 9 weeks @ 40 hours each by End of the Year.
  
 ===== Learning Anything Takes 20 Hours ===== ===== Learning Anything Takes 20 Hours =====
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 **Deconstruct the Skill **: **Deconstruct the Skill **:
  
-   * Break the skill down into manageable components.+  * Break the skill down into manageable components.
   * Identify the specific aspects you want to learn and focus on the most essential parts first.   * Identify the specific aspects you want to learn and focus on the most essential parts first.
  
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   * Use these resources not as a procrastination tool but to gain just enough knowledge to begin practicing and correcting mistakes.   * Use these resources not as a procrastination tool but to gain just enough knowledge to begin practicing and correcting mistakes.
  
-​​​​​​​**Remove Barriers to Practice **:+**Remove Barriers to Practice **:
  
   * Identify and eliminate distractions (like TV, internet, etc.) that hinder your practice time.   * Identify and eliminate distractions (like TV, internet, etc.) that hinder your practice time.
   * Utilize willpower to create a dedicated practice environment free from interruptions.   * Utilize willpower to create a dedicated practice environment free from interruptions.
  
-​​​​​​​​​​​​​​**Practice for at Least 20 Hours **:+**Practice for at Least 20 Hours **:
  
   * Commit to dedicating at least 20 hours to practicing the skill over a month (roughly 45 minutes a day).   * Commit to dedicating at least 20 hours to practicing the skill over a month (roughly 45 minutes a day).
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 Originally a talk by Prof. Jordan Peterson Originally a talk by Prof. Jordan Peterson
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 **Shift Focus Away from Yourself **: **Shift Focus Away from Yourself **:
-      * When in a social situation, consciously redirect your attention from your feelings of anxiety to observing others. + 
-      * Pay close attention to people's behavior and reactions to help ease your internal focus. +  * When in a social situation, consciously redirect your attention from your feelings of anxiety to observing others. 
-  -+  * Pay close attention to people's behavior and reactions to help ease your internal focus.
  
 **Engage with Individuals **: **Engage with Individuals **:
-      * In group settings, instead of speaking to the entire group, engage with one person at a time. Treat the group as a collection of individuals, not one large audience. + 
-      * This approach allows you to communicate more comfortably and helps you feel more connected. +  * In group settings, instead of speaking to the entire group, engage with one person at a time. Treat the group as a collection of individuals, not one large audience. 
-  -+  * This approach allows you to communicate more comfortably and helps you feel more connected.
  
 **Develop Social Skills **: **Develop Social Skills **:
-      * If you struggle with basic social skills, consider behavior therapy or social skills training to learn and practice effective social interactions. + 
-      * This can help you develop the confidence needed to engage with others effectively. +  * If you struggle with basic social skills, consider behavior therapy or social skills training to learn and practice effective social interactions. 
-  -+  * This can help you develop the confidence needed to engage with others effectively.
  
 **Pay Attention to Feedback **: **Pay Attention to Feedback **:
-      * Cultivate the practice of actively listening to others and interpreting social cues. This will help you understand the dynamics of a conversation better. + 
-      * Look for feedback, both verbal and non-verbal, to adjust your communication style accordingly. +  * Cultivate the practice of actively listening to others and interpreting social cues. This will help you understand the dynamics of a conversation better. 
-  -+  * Look for feedback, both verbal and non-verbal, to adjust your communication style accordingly.
  
 **Embrace Discomfort **: **Embrace Discomfort **:
-      * Acknowledge that feeling awkward is part of the learning process in social interactions. Accepting discomfort can help you push through anxiety instead of avoiding it. + 
-  -+  * Acknowledge that feeling awkward is part of the learning process in social interactions. Accepting discomfort can help you push through anxiety instead of avoiding it.
  
 **Learn from Criticism **: **Learn from Criticism **:
-      * Be open to receiving feedback, even if it comes from those you consider enemies or critics. This information can provide valuable insights for personal growth. + 
-      * Reflect on accurate critiques to help you develop and strengthen your social abilities.+  * Be open to receiving feedback, even if it comes from those you consider enemies or critics. This information can provide valuable insights for personal growth. 
 +  * Reflect on accurate critiques to help you develop and strengthen your social abilities.
  
  
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